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Adversity - One Lady's Incredible Story of Conquering It

It is amazing how adversity can destroy some people and how some people use it to get stronger and be better because of it.  This is the story of someone who used adversity to climb to the top of her profession and use the talents she was given to the fullest.

Elaine Northrop

I had the opportunity to listen to an interview Howard Brinton did in 1998 with a lady by the name of Elaine Northrop of Maryland.  It impacted me and I used Elaine's incredible attitude to make it through my own personal trials in 1998 & 1999.  I will never forget this interview and use it to inspire my co-workers.

Elaine opened her interview by telling Howard about her husband at the time that left her for her best friend and emptied the bank account as well.  Elaine was teaching at the time and selling real estate part time. All she knew is that she had to make a lot of money in a hurry. At first she used what she called her "Pity" party to sell real estate after her divorce.  Some clients would even cry with her over what had happened to her and would buy a home out of pity from Elaine.

Elaine eventually quit teaching and started selling real estate full time.  She says she stopped chasing her ex and stopped trying to punish him for what he did to her. She also stopped feeling sorry for herself. She eventually started doing very well in real estate and earned over $300,000 in only her 2nd full year. 

She talks about going to a seminar one time and at the end of the course the instructor told all the students to write down their goal in income for the following year.  Elaine wrote down $500,000 as her goal.  The instructor then told everyone in the class to cross out the goal they wrote down and double it.  Elaine remembers going "What"!  She then said "if not me why not me"?  The following year she earned just under 1 million dollars in commissions and the following year she exceeded 1 million in commissions and has never looked back.

She goes on to say she remarried a wonderful man and once went to Florida and saw a condo she saw herself and her family having Thanksgiving there.  The condo sold before she could make the offer but Elaine kept seeing her family owning that condo.  She used visualization for months and saw her family having dinner there.  A few months later the sale fell through with the other offer and Elaine bought the condo and her family had Thanksgiving dinner there! 

A renowned professional with thirty years of experience in real estate, Elaine has the distinction of being the only #1 International Agent for Coldwell Banker three times and the # 1 agent in Maryland for many consecutive years. A member of the Real Estate Hall of Fame and a Howard Brinton superstar, Elaine has shared her success by teaching a course in creative visualization. With a B.A. in English, she is also known for the creative ads she writes for her listings and her success in selling high end homes.

One of the things Elaine says in her interview is to "Stop dwelling in the past and in adversity and start making things happening".  She uses visualization a lot and never dwells on adversity.  She chooses to dwell on "What can be".  Elaine also says that most people will only produce what they allow themselves to produce and put limitations on themselves.  This is so true.

Her favorite saying is "Conceive it, Believe it, achieve it"

I have had that quote posted in my office since 1998.

To hear part of Elaine's interview with Howard Brinton go to http://www.gostarpower.com/club/members_archive.cfm?clubid=80198   Elaine's interview was one of the most amazing interviews I have ever heard. The audio takes a few minutes to download.  Please be patient, it is worth the wait!

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Comment balloon 22 commentsGeorge Tallabas • March 08 2007 09:56AM

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Hey, George!  What an inspirational lady!  She's right, if you limit yourself in your mind, you'll never go beyond that limit.  Keep an open mind and believe in yourself!

Posted by Sarah Cooper (Real Estate Shows) about 12 years ago
Yes my good friend....I heard Elaine's complete interview in 1998 and it blew me away.  I was going through my divorce at that time and this lady inspired me beyond words. She says in her interview that people will do no more than their mind allows them to. She says that when we open our minds and allow ourselves to go beyond our limitations there is nothing we can accomplish. How true!  Have you clicked on the link and listened to part of her interview with Howard?
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) about 12 years ago
Another way to look at something like this:  When you stay focused on revenge, it prevents you to move forward to the next level or even sideways.  You only go down.
Posted by Renée Donohue~Home Photography, Western Michigan Real Estate Photographer (Savvy Home Pix) about 12 years ago
Thanks Renee - I hope you clicked the link to listen to Elaine.  I hope some day she will become a national speaker so many more can learn the power of positive thinking and believing in oneself.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) about 12 years ago

George.. I'm looking forward to listening to Elaine's story..

 

Posted by Kaye Thomas, e-PRO, Manhattan Beach CA (Real Estate West) about 12 years ago
Thanks Kaye....you will absolutely love it.  She has impacted me beyond words.  Take care and have a wonderful day.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) about 12 years ago
Great post George! I'm now going to listen to the link you posted.
Posted by Kip & Tamara Barnard, Broker Assoc., Realtor ASP (Coldwell Banker) about 12 years ago
You are very welcome.  I spoke to Elaine by phone today for the first time to tell her I used her story since I had been listening to it since 1998.  We talked for a long time and both shed tears of joy.  She is in the process of writing her 1st book on the power of the mind to accomplish great things and is going to mail me a copy!  Please let me know what you think of the short audio link.  Elaine is one amazing woman.  Thank you so much for your comments. Have a wonderful evening.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) about 12 years ago

Thank you George for sharing this story. It is encouraging to hear how others have been able to pull themselves out the the "pity party" phase and move into sucess. When someone is in the mist of this type of self pity lifestyle it affects every aspect of their life, and it sometimes takes a great deal of time to come to the place where moving forward is an option. Reading this post was very helpful to me personally, and I believe it will be to many others. Once again, thank you for sharing this. I will go to the website that you referenced to her the interview.

Lisa

Posted by Lisa Wopschall (Blue Pacific Realty) about 12 years ago

Thank you Lisa, Elaine impacted me like no other and I would love to hear your opinion after you listen to a clip of the interview. 

Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) about 12 years ago

Hi George.  WOW!  Elaine does make an impact with what she has to say. I was most impressed with what she had to say about "if not me, then who and why not me?" I know from first hand experience that once you have little or no confidence in yourself or your abilities due to major rejection and enduring horrific experiences, then it becomes an effort to just "get through" each day. Recognizing that you are not the sum of rejection and past experiences is a hard pill to swallow for some. I think I am just beginning the journey into believing that I can achieve whatever I can dream. Now I am working on setting goals, and becoming comfortable with who I am. Listening to Elaine speak about "Conceive It, Believe It, Achieve It" helped me to realize that in order to achieve or believe IT, I must first conceive IT by setting goals and actually defining my own dreams. Thanks again, hearing this interview has really helped me in this whole process.

 Lisa

Posted by Lisa Wopschall (Blue Pacific Realty) about 12 years ago
Thank you Lisa.  I was blessed to talk to Elaine on the phone today for the first time ever.  She is writing a book about the power of the mind and her beliefs and is going to mail me a copy.  I feel blessed beyond words.  Elaine is one in a million that overcame adversity and started looking at what she could accomplish and tore away all limitations.  She is just amazing. I am so glad you enjoyed reading about her.  Have a great evening.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) about 12 years ago
Great post George, thanks so much for sharing it with us.  I think I will listen to this from time to time to keep me motivated.  I love the way Elaine thinks!  For many of us we have to re-train our minds, that one the goals I am working on this year.  I look forward to reading Elaine's book when it's published.
Posted by Ava Anderson, Selling Atlanta from A-Z! (A-Z Atlanta Realty ) about 12 years ago
Thank you very much Eva.  Elaine has touched so many lives.  She is an incredible inspiration to many.  I will treasure her book as well. Take good care and thanks for writing.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) about 12 years ago

George, when you spoke with Elaine did she give you any indication of when her book will be available? I would love to read it as soon as it is published. Thanks again for sharing with us.

LIsa

Posted by Lisa Wopschall (Blue Pacific Realty) about 12 years ago
No she did not give me a date Lisa.  When I know I will post a blog on here to let everyone know. You can also check on Amazon.com or by just typing her name in the address bar.  Thanks so much.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) about 12 years ago

Another great post!  Thanks so much for your motivational contribution George!  I'm buying Elaine's book the moment it becomes available. 

Posted by Maria "Antoinette" Scognamiglio, GRI, ASP, There's no substitute for EXPERIENCE! (Coldwell Banker Realtors) about 12 years ago
Thank you Antoinette...Elaine and I have become personal friends and she is vacationing in Florida at the moment.  We have exchanged gifts in respect of one another.  She is mailing me an autographed copy of her book when it is published sometime around July or August of this year.  Keep in touch with me and I will let you know.  Cheers!
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) about 12 years ago
What inspiration you have given me.  Thank you!  I've been on a search to read some great posts on goal setting and this one really fit in with the great. 
Posted by Julie Neerings~Lifting Hearts ♥ Building Dreams~ (Agent Referral) over 11 years ago
Julie - I am so glad to hear it impacted you. I actually spoke to Elaine on the phone earlier this year and is an amazing woman.  She is writing a book and it will hopefully be published by the end of this year.  She is mailing me an autogrpahed copy and I will be writing a post about it.  I hope all is well.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
George-that it so awesome.  Definitely keep us posted with the autographed book from Elaine.  I'll keep my eyes open for it. 
Posted by Julie Neerings~Lifting Hearts ♥ Building Dreams~ (Agent Referral) over 11 years ago
Julie - I will keep you posted.  I hope all is well
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

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