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When Brokers and Agents part - Words can pierce or heal

With the real estate market changing this year I have seen a lot of Realtors changing office in search of "Greener Pastures".  I could write a whole book about why Realtors need to be careful about looking for an office or Broker that will make them successful but I have addressed my strong feelings about that in previous posts.

Since "Greener Pastures" rarely exist I encourage Brokers and agents to be careful when they part and to make sure bridges are not burned and peace exists in spite of a difference of opinions.

After I sold my real estate company in 1997 I joined a very visible and successful real estate company.  My business started to grow and each year was better than the last. My business grew in spite of some things I saw in ownership and leadership that I did not agree with.

In 2002 a Realtor I worked with and a partner of his decided to open another RE/MAX office and I was invited to be part of the new office.  I had a deep respect for my friend and thought he was making a good move so I decided to join the new office along with 6 other agents.  It was a huge shot heard around our town and a lot of things were being said.

When I made the decision to join the new team I made an appointment to talk to my existing broker.  I mentioned my concern for some of the decisions that had been made and a concern for some of his actions.  I said I did not harbor any ill feelings but I was making a change to the new office.   The first thing out of his mouth is "What will it take to keep you here?".  I responded by saying that this was not up for negotiation and my decision was made and final.  Again, I was asked "What will it take to keep you here?".  I again responded by saying my decision was made and was final and wished him well.

 

When my broker realized I was not staying but indeed going I was immediately told that "I was boarding a sinking ship!" and "You are going to fail!"  A few other choice words were mentioned that I cannot repeat. He started to yell at me profously  I told my broker I was sorry he felt the way he did and that I did not want to end our relationship on a bad note and I wanted nothing but the best for him and his company.  He would not even shake my hand when I offered it and that was that.

 

My new office started in early 2002 and by 2005 it was the #1 RE/MAX real estate company in our market area and still holds that honor today.  It grew from the 7 of us in 2002 to 65 licensed agents in 2006.

In early 2005 I saw a Realtor come out of my current brokers office and he had a tear in his eye.  I asked him if everything was alright and he responded by saying he could not believe what just happened.   He said he met with our broker to tell him he was leaving our company concentrate on a real estate career in neighboring Boise about 15 minutes from our office.

He went on to say that our broker was sad to see him go and then said.  "You are a smart man and I am sure you have thought this out well.  I wish you the best and want you to know you are always welcome back.  May I pray for you?"

He said my broker proceeded to pray for him and his new career.   He was just blown away and he just lost it.

My point is that there are a lot of emotions flying around in the real estate market. A lot of brokers are seeing agents leave and either search for another real estate company or go into a different career altogether. 

Regardless of the decisions we make it makes a whole lot of sense to respect each other and to want the best for everyone that walks in and out of our office. Simply take the HIGH ROAD.

Remember that we can pierce each others hearts with a sword or we can heal with words of respect and kindness.  We eventually have to work with each other and having "good feelings" between us will pay huge dividends.

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Comment balloon 84 commentsGeorge Tallabas • November 05 2007 12:21AM

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George:

Great post!  It was very painful and emotional for me to leave my first broker.  We didn't leave on good terms but I definitely went to "Greener Pastures". 

I believe his words were something like, "Don't let the door hit you where the Good Lord split you." and then he thew a bottle of Jack Daniels at me.  Just kidding.  About the Jack Daniels part. 

That was very touching about what your current broker did for the agent that left him.  He sounds like a great guy!

Posted by Jessica Horton Jessica Horton Realty, Jessica Horton: I'm not #1... You Are! (Jessica Horton - Jessica Horton & Associates) over 11 years ago
Thanks Jessica - Many don't realize that words are so powerful and can change relationships forever.  To be attacked and wished malice never made any sense to me.  Yes, my current broker is one in a million.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
George...Your moves mirror ours even to the point when leaving our last broker, she was so mad she could not face us. Not at all a pleasant parting. I'm a firm believer in not burning a bridge so I just let it roll off me. Great post!
Posted by Monika McGillicuddy, Southern NH & the Seacoast Area (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Verani Realty) over 11 years ago
Monika - Sorry you had such an experience. Mine was one of the worst I have ever been through but the move was the best decision I could have made.  I hope all is well.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
George- I have only changed offices once, but I know what you mean.  I have worked with several agents and I find the best thing to do is part on good terms.  My community is small and odds are our paths will cross again.  Besides it's all about business, nothing personal. 
Posted by Valarie Grisham (Keller Williams) over 11 years ago
Valarie - Good for you.  We all need to take the HIGH ROAD
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
I love this post George!  I think the high road is too often the road less travelled!
Posted by Ana Connell, Burbank Real Estate Agent (G & C Properties) over 11 years ago
Ana - Thank you my friend....I hope all is well for you.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

George, your current Broker sounds like a jewel. I've only left one company and been with RE/MAX ever sense, my first Broker was very nice and really wanted me to stay. I told her I had no hard feelings and it was just a business decision. After she knew my mind was made up she said, well give me the keys. And I did, she didn't not speak to me at any event for years. Finally she did and this year invited me back to manage the company. No, thanks management is not for me.

Your broker left a door wide open for him to come back if it didnt' work out and that is how it should be. I never understood, when I first got into the business why agent left under a cover of darkness.

Posted by Missy Caulk, Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate (Missy Caulk TEAM) over 11 years ago
Missy - Thank you my friend.  We should all respect one another and we all know we cannot control or change anyone.  It is all about respecting each and every person.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
George, you give wise advice!  I have left three different brokerages before I started my own and I was always careful not to burn any bridges.  My leaving has always been amicable and I have felt I could go back to any of the three brokerages but I LOVE HAVING MY OWN!!  My husband and I both learned a long time ago not to burn bridges!!
Posted by Marchel Peterson, Spring TX Real Estate E-Pro (Results Realty) over 11 years ago
Marchel - I know you are an awesome person and I am sure you are loved and respected by many.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
this one really struck a chord...I have been in both positions- one with an angry Broker that really never said a kind word and one with the best wishes for me. I am now managing broker and call upon my past broker that encouraged me to take this step. Yes, words have a way of resonating. Thanks George, it is about taking the high road.
Posted by Michele Connors, Your Eastern North Carolina Realtor (The Overton Group, LLC Pitt & Carteret County) over 11 years ago
Michelle - It is amazing how people react to every situation.  We all have a choice and taking the HIGH ROAD is always the best choice but many do not realize that.  Have a great evening and a great week ahead.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
It sounds like many of us have had unpleasant experiences when leaving one broker for another. When I left, my broker first tried to give me better a split to entice me to stay, but when I said, "no" turned on me completely. She didn't understand that it was a business decision...and instead took it personally. She also held one of my listings hostage...my clients were so angry they refused to allow any showings on the property until the listing agreement ran out...then they re-listed it with me and we sold it just a few weeks later. She created such a bad reputation for herself and the company by they way she behaved. It was awful.
Posted by Kelly Sibilsky (Licensed Through Referral Connection, LTD.) over 11 years ago
Kelly - It is so sad your ex broker adopted that attitude.  You can see by the results it hurt her and her reputation. It is so sad that more brokers and agents don't take the high road my friend.  I hope all is well.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
George - you have no idea how timely this post is.  Thank you for sharing and helping to keep things in perspective.  I certainly appreciate your wisdom.
Posted by Carol Smith (Casmi Photography) over 11 years ago
Carol - You are welcome my friend and I hope all is well.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

The high road would certainly always be the best choice.  I've only been with my present Broker, so I don't have any personal experience with this.  You make great choices, George.

@ Missy--I also wonder why Agents leave under a cloak of darkness.  In most cases, it seems you're talking to the Agent one day, friendly, normal business as usual and then the next day they've left without a word to most of the other Agents....always so hush, hush.  I don't see what the big deal is.  I'm the type who if I were to decide to leave, I would speak with my Broker first and then send a group e-mail to the Agents to at least say "goodbye", "nice knowing and working with you" and then talk personally to any who wanted to talk about it...I know we're all wired differently though.  I guess their reasoning could be that they don't want to discuss why they're leaving and/or that it's none of our business why they're leaving, which I guess it isn't really (LOL), but I'm just thinking about what I would do. 

Posted by Vickie Arcuri, South Florida Luxury Real Estate (ONE Sotheby's International Realty) over 11 years ago
Vickie - Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I just hope and pray everyone can respect one another and avoid harmful and hurtful words.  As I mentioned, we all have to work with one another and it is a lot easier to do it with good feelings.  Have a wonderful evening and week ahead my friend.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
George - I could  not have said it better.  People move on but there is no reason to leave on bad terms,  I truly believe many brokers need to have training as to how to facilitate a graceful exit.
Posted by Jennifer Fivelsdal, Mid Hudson Valley real estate connection ( JFIVE Home Realty LLC | 845-758-6842|162 Deer Run Rd Red Hook NY 12571) over 11 years ago

George

This of course is a great post.  Yours always are.  But the striking thing is somthing similar happened to me some years ago.  The only thing was it was reversed. I had to let an employee go. I hated to do it but they just couldn't handle the job.  I offered to help her find a job, call in some favors, but whe was so angery, so very hateful.  It hurt me deeply.  We always have to remember that what leaves the mouth cannot be drawn back in.  It is out there forever.

Thanks George.

 Cowgirl 





Posted by Roberta Lee, Norco Corona Riversid Homes For Sale (Century 21 Olde Tyme) over 11 years ago

 

George, thank you for your nice post. I do not have any experiences of leaving a broker. my only dear broker who taught me all i knew died of heart attack.  It was difficult for me to even think of replacing him. all I have is beautiful memories about him. after that I went solo with a broker family member of my departed broker.  thanks for listening and thanks again for your post.  

Posted by Lupe Soto-Realtor, Listing, Selling, Feng Shui in San Fernando Valle (Colonial Realty Group ) over 11 years ago
I have been with the same office since getting back in the industry and have been so fortunate to find a great home there.  Sounds like you have a similar environment in your company.
Posted by Randy Prothero, Hawaii REALTOR, (808) 384-5645 (eXp Realty) over 11 years ago
I left my former broker earlier this year.  I had been with a small independent broker, and I made the decision that I wanted to be in a company with more professional tools and a better market share.  My broker understood and thankfully there were no hard feelings.  The high road is definitely the best road.
Posted by Erin Stumpf (Attardi), 916-342-1372 / DRE# 01706589 Sacramento, CA (Coldwell Banker) over 11 years ago

Treating people well and not burning bridges should be the mantra for all industries, not just ours.  What a clear cut case you make for this in your story here. 

I'm happy that you found a brokerage that treats people well.  Your broker is one of the good guys.

Posted by Kris Wales, Real Estate Blog & Homes for Sale search site, Macomb County MI (Keller Williams Realty - Lakeside Market Center) over 11 years ago
This is the best post I have read on Active Rain.  I can't even express to you how I wish I worked for a Broker such as the second.  You are a lucky, lucky man!  Prayer is a POWERFUL thing!  It sounds to me that your Broker has built his business around it!  This was touching and a great start to my day and a reminder of what is truly important!  Thank you so much!
Posted by Kim Carpenter, Lake Winnipesaukee REALTOR -Lake Winnipesaukee Real Estate, NH (Coldwell Banker) over 11 years ago

As I think back to brokers with whom I work, a very special one comes to mind.  I had worked with him for over 10 years, loved him as a mentor and a visionary.  He was beloved by his agents then as he is now in several states, and widely respected throughout the industry.  When I left his company, he called me at home and begged me to stay.  Then when he found out I was committed to my decision, he called me names that don't bear repeating.  'Turns out he was right about it being the wrong decision for me, and I would have gone back within a week (or several other times over the years), except for the way he talked to me. I learned a lot from this lesson, and one of the things is exactly what you said:  It's best to always take the high road. 

Posted by Margaret Woda, Maryland Real Estate & Military Relocation (Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc.) over 11 years ago
George, to me its not about the burning bridges. It about doing the right thing. The broker started off on their own. Why wouldn't they want the same for each and every agent. When I recruit new agents this is part of my conversation. At some point in the future, you will want to go out on your own etc... I want people who are looking forward to tomorrow. Some brokers just don't get. Peace.
Posted by Frank Rubi, FrankRubiRealEstate.com (Frank Rubi Real Estate, LLC) over 11 years ago

There are so many good ways to handle a separation, it is a shame that too many people fall into the worst ways.

It is one of the best times in life to reveal your inner character, part friends, and not burn bridges. 

Posted by Mike Jaquish, 919-880-2769 Cary, NC, Real Estate (Realty Arts) over 11 years ago

George,

Well written as usual!  Great advice for life in general.  (I hate using cliches but do it all the time anyway...) You have to be careful about burning bridges.  You never know when you'll have to go back over the bridge.  As I've said in other comments, do the right thing and good things happen. 

Posted by M A over 11 years ago
Boy, I bet we all have our stories.  Our offices are all little soap operas on wheels.  I was kind and respectful to the last broker I left.  In spite of the fact that I was number two in her office and she kept calling me Karen.
Posted by Chris Griffith, Bonita Springs Listing Agent (Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL) over 11 years ago
George, nice post. Glad you are with a good group of people. I have a good office I am working with now and the broker is good and very supportive. Makes a difference in your performance, as well. Positive action brings positive results and coupled with being in a positive environment....has greater potential for success. Thanks for the post.  
Posted by Jeanean Gendron, Specializing in Selling Unique Properties (The Address Realty) over 11 years ago
Nice post George, I too had a horrible experience when I left my first office.  He took it very personal and attached me on a personal level.  Since then all but two agents have left that office! He still to this day blames it on location...
Posted by Amy Whiffen, REALTOR - Myrtle Beach Real Estate (RE/MAX Southern Shores) over 11 years ago

George-It is so true how many brokers burn the bridges behind them.  It was a very tough decision for me to leave my first office.  I liked my broker and the training I had gotten as a new agent but I wanted the chance to make more independent decisions about my business that I couldn't do there. I was berated for my decision yet if a new agent asks me today where they should start I always tell them for the best training they should check out that company first.  I've never looked back and still wish my former broker all the best despite the feeling that he gave me as I walked out the door.

Posted by Cindy Jones, Pentagon, Fort Belvoir & Quantico Real Estate News (Integrity Real Estate Group) over 11 years ago

George, taking the high road is always better.  I wish everyone was as above board to deal with as you are. Best wishes in all that you do

Posted by Mike Norvell Sr, Norvell Consulting Group (Morris Williams Realty) over 11 years ago
George...  Another excellent post and fantastic advice!
Posted by Lisa Rapose (ReDesign To Sell (TM)) over 11 years ago

I had a three hour exit interview when I left my last office almost a year ago.  He was delaying me because he didn't want me to get to the division by the time it closed on Friday.

I stayed honest with him and he respectfully asked me not to "take" anyone with me.  I told him I would not actively seek recruiting but if someone would ask me why I left I wouldn't lie.

Fast forward to last week, his brokerage closed down completely. 

Posted by Renée Donohue~Home Photography, Western Michigan Real Estate Photographer (Savvy Home Pix) over 11 years ago
Excellent post and timely too.  I know many agents who are evaluating everything right now.  I left one company and felt horrible about it, but to this day I could still return which is a nice feeling.  I know another agent who left my current office and the stuff that was said about her after she left....  Some people take it personally rather than as business and that is where the trouble starts.
Posted by Kim Peasley-Parker (AgentOwned Realty, Heritage Group, Inc.) over 11 years ago
George, Real Estate is a relationship business, with clients and with other real estate agents and the professionals that support our business.  We change and move on, it is good to maintain the relationships as professional as we can.  (burning bridges not good you know)
Posted by Ruth Jacobs - North Palm Beach Real Estate Specialist over 11 years ago
I've only worked for 2 brokers, but I learned a lot from each of them.
Posted by Al Maxwell, Real Estate Agent (Keller Williams) over 11 years ago
I understand what you are saying. Don't burn bridges. We all go through the decision of moving on.
Posted by We all go throu over 11 years ago

Sometimes we have to get a better outlook on our careers. Moving on can be tough.  

Posted by Bryan Spann, Agent (SYSNE LLC) over 11 years ago
George - I have never left a brokers, but I have changed several jobs in my prior career. I also had to fire people. I learned that no matter what the circumstances, we are all individuals deserving of respect, including respect for our decisions. This is a small world after all and you can't go wrong by taking, like you said, the high road.
Posted by Faina Sechzer, Real Estate Expert - Princeton, Montgomery ,Hopewell, NJ (Henderson-Sotheby's International Realty) over 11 years ago
George, Thanks for offering a little more insight to your life. That was truly a very moving post. I myself have had to change offices a few times. For my part it has always been on good terms. Only once did I part on what I thought were good terms only to have the previous Broker working feverously behind my back to discredit me. After 4 years of his hard work he was rewarded with losing his company, his marriage, and all of those who he thought had been his friends. He was a very devious man and his chickens had finally come home to roost.
Posted by Herb Hamilton, Real Estate Broker ,CDPE, Downtown Portland (RE/MAX Preferred Inc. Realtors) over 11 years ago

Wow! What a great post. I'm fortunate enough to have left my first broker on good terms. We still eat lunch together once a month.

George, your new broker sounds like a diamond in the rough. I happen to work for a broker who is a devout and open Christian. What an awesome experience it is to have someone over you who answers to a higher power. Rock on!

Posted by Jay Knorr, Prudential Preferred Real Estate, Auburn, AL over 11 years ago
Hi George. I left a Real Estate Company 11 years ago, and still to this day every time i see the Broker he wants to know when I was going to come home. I was with this company 10 years and left on very good terms. Knowing that I could go back anytime I want to make me feel good. Thanks for the post.
Posted by Renate Lemons over 11 years ago

I thought I was the only one that had a really BAD experience leaving a broker.  My manager was actually decent when we first started talking about me leaving.  Once he realized that I wasn't going to change my mind...all HELL broke loose.  He became the manager from HELL.  It was really shocking.  I maintained my composure and got out of that office as quickly as I could.  I am happy to report that I made a good decision.  I have been with my current broker for a year and "It's All Good"

Posted by Karen Y. Copeland, Broker Owner (Affinity Realty Group) over 11 years ago

Enjoyable post, George, adna  valuable lesson to keep in mind. I left my old company when I moved to CA and the parting was as good as it could possible be! I was lucky, but then I was also not moving to a competitor. The world is just too small and life too short to be petty when people decide to make changes they feel are in their best interest. It seems that people's true colors emerge in these situations.

Jeff

Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) over 11 years ago
This is a GREAT post not just for real estate, but also in life.  If you must part ways, then do it with your head held high and with dignity and respect.  There is no reason to part on bad terms if it at all you don't have to!
Posted by Emily Lowe, Nashville TN Realtor (The Lipman Group | Sotheby's International Realty) over 11 years ago
Thanks everyone for taking the time to comment and share your opinion.  I wish you all well and lets all take the HIGH ROAD today!
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

George, It was tough for me to leave my first broker too. I had moved over 45 minutes from the office, and the commute, let alone the fact that it was a small town office (not a national chain) made it a necessity to move. I also had differences in opinion about the way he conducted the business.

I made the change, being careful not to leave any business there, then my former broker tried to find a way to "steal" the majority of the commission for my niece's new construction home (the only commission I had to leave there when I made the move). When I provided the documentation and threatened arbitration he backed down. He knew I was serious and that I would go through with it. What's fair is fair. The move, for me, was to "greener pastures!" His actions just proved to me that I made the right decision.

Posted by Diane Testa over 11 years ago

I left my first broker and he stalked me for a month.  Had a hard time collecting money for the settlement I handled after leaving too.

The second one I left sued me for my web site and wouldn't pay me commissions due.  I won the law suit and he had to pay me too.  But, it occupied a lot of time an money for 2 years. 

The third one wouldn't pay me and I had to sue him for the $60,000 he owed me for closings I handled after I left.  He finally settled the day he was served with the law suit.

I then decided to get my own broker's license.  I haven't had any easy "separations".  They didn't treat me right when I was with them and then didn't want me to leave.  Go figure. 

Posted by Lenn Harley, Real Estate Broker - Virginia & Maryland (Lenn Harley, Homefinders.com, MD & VA Homes and Real Estate) over 11 years ago

Hi George,

This story rang true for us.  The first Broker I left was a CB broker and the manager actually threw his pen across the desk towards me to sign my exit papers.  Since then, the same company has recruited me on several occasions and that one act soured me completely by that manager.  We have also been in a position to make a decision on whether to stay where we have been for years or seek out those greener pastures.  But we understand that you make your own pastures green no matter where you are.  Some offices are more supportive than others but we are all independent contractors that need to keep an eye on our own business model.  Thanks for the truly inspiring post. 

 

Posted by Robert and Lisa Hammerstein -201-315-8618, Bergen County NJ Real Estate (Keller Williams Valley Realty) over 11 years ago
George:  I have been a Realtor for over 10 years and I have only worked for 2 brokers.  I am at a wonderful Christian office and would not have it any other way.........Sometimes it is not all about the money but a great environment to work in.  The money will come later.  Loved your post.  Hope you had a great weekend and you are feeling better.
Posted by Dianne Barody, Pensacola Florida Real Estate (Century 21 AmeriSouth Realty) over 11 years ago
George,  the nature of the market is creating a lot more moves than usual.  Some brokers don't want "part time agents", and yet the reality for some agents is that they can't make a living doing it full time.  You're 100% right...if you make a move, just don't burn bridges.  There's no reason to hurt yourself or future opportunities by making rash or emotional decisions.  Good post.
Posted by Jason Romrell (Business Attorney and Success Advisor) over 11 years ago

When I left my old office to go independent in September, I gave 30-days notice.  When I told my friend and manager/owner about my plans, she gave me a big hug, wished me well and gethered everybody around for a happy hour.  In the last few months, I've encountered a few situations that I had questions about and she still takes the time to help.  It doesn't get any better than knowing someone has your back and wants you to be successful.

 

Posted by Amanda Evans, Real Estate Broker - Fort Worth Texas (DFW Living) over 11 years ago
I just went into real estate in April. Being new, i decided to join a small office. I think i made the right choice, but even though we are a part of the Century 21 system, we only have a 1 to 3 % market share in our town. I thought about moving to one of the larger companys in town, but I decided it is WHAT you do, not WHERE you do it.
Posted by Ann Cordes, Home Ownership is Not a Distant Dream (Century 21 Randall Morris and Associates, Waco) over 11 years ago

I have been with the same company for 12 years, we have changed from a local company to a National Franchise during that time, but we are still the same crew.  During the years some of our agents have gone off to other companies for a promise of a larger split, or some other incentive.  Some of them have made their way back, often bringing agents along with them.  I must assume from seeing the returns that our Owners are not ones to slam the door but instead kept the feelings positive.   An interesting difference is the reaction of the agents in the office in comparison to the Owners when we lose agents, whether they are going to other companies or leaving the business completely.  The Owners take it hard, the agents take it as less competition and more of the pie for them.  Eventually though, if you lose agents, the company has a smaller budget for advertising and support staff and all the benefits we have grown accustomed to.  We need a happy middle ground of trimming out the competition while maintaining cash flow.

Posted by Beth Anderson, Realtor - Tecumseh / Lenawee County (Goedert Real Estate) over 11 years ago
George, I have to say one of the things that bothers me the most in this business is all the back-biting, gossip, lies, etc. that goes around from agency to agency.  The unfortunate thing is even when a broker does handle the situation right - and wish the agent well - the agent doesn't necessarily carry that message to the new broker.  It's bothersome to me, but you're right, we need to stay on the high road regardless of the situation and who is doing and saying what.
Posted by Joddie Roberts, Your Spokane Realtor - Spokane, WA (Mountain Real Estate and Property Management) over 11 years ago
I've been in only 4 companies in over 20 years. I seen what this can do and has done to several of my fellow agents. You never want to burn any bridges. Wish everyone well and move on. You may have to go back there one day.
Posted by Robert L. Brown, Grand Rapids Real Estate Bellabay Realty, West Mic (www.mrbrownsellsgr.com) over 11 years ago
Thanks for your post George!
Posted by Steve Prewitt, Colorado Springs Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Thank you all again and Joddie - Back biting and back stabbing unfortunately exists everywhere.  Just keep your chin up and keep doing the right things.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Words to live by!!! Great post and one that we should all remember! Thanks for sharing!
Posted by Rick and Lynn Orze, Carol Stream, IL RE/MAX All Pro (RE/MAX All Pro) over 11 years ago

George,

Well written and excellent post! It is amazing that the first question that comes out of a broker's mouth when you inform them that you are leaving is, "What will it take to keep you here?".  Your present broker sounds like a wise and genuine man. That is someone anyone can be proud to be working with.

Dave

Posted by David Dee, Real Estate - San Gabriel Valley (L.A.) & N. Orang (RMX REALTY) over 11 years ago

Great post I have been to several offices in the Snohomish County Washington area and each time was hard to leave. Even if you are leaving under distressed conditions its still hard to leave the people that you work with day in and day out.

I do wish that I had started my career at Keller Williams as I have been to a few offices now within that organization and each office no matter if run badly or not really seems to attract a great group of people.

Todd Hueffed

www.ThatHomeZone.com in partnership with Keller Williams North Seattle

Posted by Todd Hueffed (Champions Real Estate Services) over 11 years ago

I'm glad to hear that you're working with such a caring person, George.  They are few and far between.  I know some just like him around here, but we have our fair share of the other.  Once of which just happened in the last few months.  Bummer.  They were good agents unfairly treated.

 

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Posted by Erby Crofutt, The Central Kentucky Home Inspector, Lexington KY (B4 U Close Home Inspections&Radon Testing (www.b4uclose.com)) over 11 years ago

Burning bridges, like your former broker did, is completely unwise. This business is a small world. One should always doors open.


Posted by Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%, Put 40 years of experience to work for you (RE/MAX Gold) over 11 years ago
Thanks for the great insight.  I couldn't agree more. When I started my own company, I had a similar negative experience, and it has really soured my (and many other agents') attitudes about my former company.  I appreciate your sharing; perhaps it will prevent fall out for some readers in the future!
Posted by Janelle Walston (Walston Group Real Estate ) over 11 years ago

Hey everyone...Just made a pit stop at the office and wanted to thank you all again for sharing your comments and opinions.  I wish you all peace with every office you are with!

Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

George - You always have some wisdom to share.

This past year I have had some burned bridges thats for sure, and I decided that the high road to take was to just walk away and move on with my business. I wanted to tell them how I felt, I wanted to defend myself, I want to know why? But in the end I chose to take the high road and accept that not all bridges are created equally.

Posted by Rebecca Savitski, NC Real Estate Listings (BSR Real Estate Group) over 11 years ago
Great post George - I believe that we all make mistakes in life and unfortunately your former broker made a bad one when he decided to burn that bridge with you. I think we all have these types of experiences in order to change us and help us see a better way. Thanks for sharing and showing us the better way.
Posted by Judy Tuscano, NH Real Estate Professional (Prudential Verani Realty) over 11 years ago

Lenn- I am sure the reason why the three brokers that you left gave you a hard time because you were such a competent,experienced and hardworking real estate agent and that once you became a broker,you would be even better. Great post.

George - I left my former real estate firm without even telling them which was not a good thing. But how much can you take when you broker is so unprofessionally,curses a lot -TOO MUCH,office atmosphere sucks,cancels classes in office and they don't even tell you and are sometimes being pressured into doing things you dont feel like doing like holding a open house on a house that is overpriced like over $200,000. Yeah. So I had to leave that company. It so happens everybody that leaves my former office now comes to my current office.

Posted by Lanre-"THE REAL ESTATE FARMER" Folayan, I don't make promises.I deliver results.SOLD HOMES (Keller Williams Select Realtors-Buy a home in Washington DC. Sell a home in Washington DC) over 11 years ago

Rebecca - Thank you for the compliment and thanks to Judy, Lanrae and everyone else that has taken the time to leave comments.  I appreciate you all.

Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

George, you truly made a wise decision by choosing a broker with the attitude your's has!  As a broker, I have had agents leave for "greener pastures" and then choose to return a year later.  I've also had agents choose to leave and been glad to see them go.  The one thing all these scenarios have had in common is that I wish them well and try to make the transition painless.  I also give out their contact number when someone calls for them after they leave!

As a new agent, my first move was heartbreaking and my former broker made it very difficult for me...to this day I have a hard time being enthusiastic about showing properties his company has listed.  My one hope is that any agent who has ever worked for me remembers me fondly, and I am blessed when some who are now brokers of their own companies call me for help.  I don't believe in ever burning bridges.

Posted by Michelle DeRepentigny, Broker Athens, GA (Success Realty) over 11 years ago

George, Great post.  I have recently been through the event of changing Brokers.  Not a good experience.  I think these actions hurt all of us individually and professionalally as a whole.  I believe and hope that shedding light on this subject may help bring the necessary changes that are needed.  Plain and simply...it is good leadership and management and it seems your Broker possesses these qualities.  I am sure his professional and positive actions are effective and benificial to all, with this type of leadership.     

     

Posted by Kathleen Vetrano, Helping YOU Achieve YOUR Dreams (RE/MAX Gateway) over 11 years ago

Thank you my friends...It is very interesting to read what you have all been through with your office experiences.  I just hope all brokers and agents will read not only my post but all of the wonderful comments and realize how important it is not burn bridges and take the HIGH ROAD. 

I reall appreciate all of you very much!

Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

This was a great post, My first broker had me booted off my MLS ,change my password, prevented me and my team member from working that weekend, announced to the board via email I was no longer with the firm, Boy did he burn bridges with me. I moved on to greener pastures, worked less ,made more.

it is now a good life!

Posted by Patricia "Pattie " Romano, Your HomeTown Realtor 609 312-9043 (RE/MAX AT BARNEGAT BAY-) over 11 years ago
There is never a point to be mean and shout and say bad things when leaving to go elsewhere. At the end of the day we all still have to all work with each other as Realtors. We need each other to sell homes. Good post.
Posted by Bob & Carolin Benjamin, East Phoenix Arizona Homes (Benjamin Realty LLC) over 11 years ago
Thanks for this post. Hearing stories like this is why I was so picky when I first started in real estate [I interviewed 11 different office, but I love the one I chose]. I almost started out with another company in the area, because they have a very aggressive recruitment program to bring in new agents, but I asked a friend whose wife had been a top agent with that firm, and he said that the broker threw a fit, cussed her, etc when she left. That was enough to knock them from the #1 or 2 spot of offices I was considering right off the list.
Posted by Raine Carraway over 11 years ago
George - What amazing class your broker has!  I've only left one broker for my current Re/Max broker and it was amicable.  I explained my reasons for leaving and later got a call from the Regional Vice President asking me if there was anything they could have done differently that would have made me stay.  I thought that was a great way to keep the doors open.  I had no intention of staying...their philosophies were just too different from mine but I never wished them ill.  For a broker to realize there are other better options for individuals is key to success.  I commend your broker.  I'm sure that agent will speak highly of him - always!
Posted by Irene Morales Ward, Realtor - e-Pro - Northern Virginia Real Estate (REMAX Distinctive Real Estate, Inc.) over 11 years ago
Thank you again everyone.  I loved hearing about everyones experience and your opinions.  Have an awesome day!
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

Thanks for speaking my heart. When I left my first position it was a nightmare of yelling, blaming and accusation. It even went so far as threatening emails including one from boss's mother! I was asked for the return of anything this person had ever given me including coffee as a house warming. It got so ridiculous I had to threaten legal action. It conitnued every so often for months! I personally wanted to end on a better note but it was clear that the only thing to do was not respond any further. When friendship and business mix the cocktail is sometimes quite unplatable.

What a great Broker you have, hold on to that one!!

 

Vanessa

Posted by Vanessa Stalets, REALTOR, Brentwood TN Homes, Real Estate (RE/MAX Elite) over 11 years ago
Vanessa - I am sorry you had such a horrible experience but there are brighter days ahead and that is exactly what I have experienced after the storm.  Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful weekend.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

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