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What Can Happen When We Start Believing

I went golfing this past Tuesday with a couple of friends. The day was beautiful, 81 degrees and sunny.

I was in the same golf cart with my buddy Jim.  We played the front 9 holes and we all had a great time.  We all had what we would call "Tiger Woods" type shots LOL, and we had our share of marginal shots but still had a great time.

My friend Jim was shooting a pretty good game on the front 9 holes and I was pretty impressed with him.  Jim had lived in this area for several years and we played golf often.  He and his wife moved away for 7 years and we lost contact with each other.  This was our first time golfing together in 8 ½ years and it was nice to get together again.

Back to our golf game.   After stopping at the club house to get something to snack on we proceeded on to the back 9.  Jim's game started to take a turn and wasn't as sharp as on the front 9.  He started to hit one bad shot after another and started becoming pretty negative about his game which was going down the toilet fast.  Not only was his game going down, but his confidence was waning big time.

On the 13th hole Jim hit a decent drive which left him 119 yards from the pin for his approach shot.  More negativity comes from Jim when he says to me, "I hate this yardage, it is a bad yardage for me and I never do well from this yardage". 

I finally had enough of the negativity and I said to him "This is a great yardage and you are going to hit a great shot!"   "Take a smooth practice swing and get up there and hit the shot of your life!".

Jim took a nice practice swing and hit the best shot of the day! He was all over the flag and left himself only a 3 foot putt for birdie!   All he could say was "Wow!"   I said, "Now fill your mind with positive thoughts and play the rest of the holes like you and I know you can!"  "I don't want to hear I CAN'T anymore!"

Jim went on to play the rest of the holes at just 1 over par which is a great score on this long course!

It is amazing how we can become our own worse enemy.  One thing goes bad, then another, and then another.  We start questioning ourselves and start thinking maybe things are as bad as everyone says they are.  "Maybe I'm not as good as I thought I was".

This is the same in our office.   The agents that come in every day and tell us how bad the real estate market is are struggling to pay their expenses.  On the other side of the coin you can see which agents will again have 6 figure incomes just like they have done in the past and there are several.

The next time your swing is out of check,  take a deep breath and say to yourself "I can hit this shot", "I can change my market", "I can change the way I speak", "I can change my world". 


 Posted By: George Tallabas - Boise Idaho Real Estate Agent - Associate Broker 
with RE/MAX Advantage, Canyon Counties #1 Brokerage in sales and listings
specializing in Boise Idaho Real Estate and Southwest Idaho Real Estate.


Native Idahoan and Boise Idaho Real Estate specialist serving Boise, Meridian Eagle, Nampa, Caldwell and the surrounding Treasure valley area of southwest Idaho. Specializing in residential, investment, land and commercial real estate. Search thousands of MLS listings at Boise Homes for sale and learn all about Idaho by visiting Search Idaho Homes

Comment balloon 58 commentsGeorge Tallabas • September 29 2007 06:14AM


Encouraging blog.  Thanks for sharing.


Posted by Rob Lang, Local Expert in Lawrence Kansas Real Estate Homes (At Home Kansas Team Powered by Keller Williams Partners Inc / over 11 years ago

Golfing aside, which I have an interesting way of playing (i.e., if I don't like my shot I pick up my ball and place it next to my husband's -- he generally makes good shots), positive "I can do this" or "this will work" or "this will happen" or "I can change the market" (which I believe I'm doing), are all positive and uplifting thought processes.  Your article is really well thought out and offers many hidden nuggets (e.g., "We start questioning ourselves and start thinking maybe things are as bad as everyone says it is." AND "I don't want to hear I CAN'T anymore!" AND "Not only was his game going down, but his confidence was waning big time.")

Thanks for the attitude pump!

Posted by Terry Rasner-Yacenda, "Dreams Realty" (Broker,Owner - Dreams Realty) over 11 years ago
George - Thank you for this post.  It came at a most appropriate time as I am considering some life changes and your words have helped define a direction.  Thank you so very much.
Posted by Carol Smith (Casmi Photography) over 11 years ago
Great point.  Negativity helps create self fulfilling prophesies.  The same for positive attitudes.
Posted by Randy Prothero, Hawaii REALTOR, (808) 384-5645 (eXp Realty) over 11 years ago


You are so right!  I can't begin to tell you how many blows we've taken this year.  If you only knew, you'd think I was the most positive person you knew. But seriously, I try to always look on the bright side of things - no matter how small and insignificant they may be.  It really does try one's beliefs though.  Thank you for your post. 

Posted by Robert and Lisa Hammerstein -201-315-8618, Bergen County NJ Real Estate (Keller Williams Valley Realty) over 11 years ago
You are always a great read for inspiration!  I look forward to each one of your posts.  Thanks George!
Posted by Jim & Maria Hart, Charleston, SC Real Estate (Brand Name Real Estate) over 11 years ago
So true George, our thoughts and then our words can determine our destiny. Well almost, not me at golf.
Posted by Missy Caulk, Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate (Missy Caulk TEAM) over 11 years ago

Rob - You are welcome

Terry - Thanks for sharing a great story

Carol - I hope things work out well and be blessed

Randy - Good to hear from you my friend

Lisa & Robert - Thanks for your friendship and support

JIm & Maria - I appreciate your comments

Missy - Very true my friend

Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Wonderful post, George.  I now feel like the train that said, "I know I can"!
Posted by Nancy Brenner, Roswell Georgia Real Estate Agent (Referral Associates of Georgia, Inc.) over 11 years ago
Nancy - Believe that you can my friend
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Golf SwingGreat post George! There is so much to say about 'Can Do's', you have a great way of sharing your daily life and adding a bit of wisdom for us all. I am sure your friends & clients love you for this quailty! Your 'CAN-DO' attitude is very present in your words and that's why I have enjoyed our new found friendship.  By the way-- I have my own sticks, when are we golfing?
Posted by Arizona Real Estate Associate Broker (MR Realty) over 11 years ago
Candace - You are one amazing girl and have quite the way with words yourself.  We shall see when the time to tee it up comes.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Positive thoughts are key!  Thanks for the post :)
Posted by Vickie Arcuri, South Florida Luxury Real Estate (ONE Sotheby's International Realty) over 11 years ago
George you are spot on with your thinking!  Good post!
Posted by Ana Connell, Burbank Real Estate Agent (G & C Properties) over 11 years ago

The power of visualization is real.  The most powerful visualization is visualizing yourself in a rut.  It's a downhill spiral.  Take that deep breath right away to avoid the spiral at all costs!

(no matter what you say I'm not golfing)

Posted by Chris Griffith, Bonita Springs Listing Agent (Downing-Frye Realty, Bonita Springs, FL) over 11 years ago
In golf, as in real estate George, attitude is everything. You've got the right spirit to uplift even the most challenging critics.
Posted by Tracy Santrock, Raleigh - Cary Realtor/Broker In Charge (Fonville Morisey/Santrock Realty Group, Inc. ) over 11 years ago
George, I know absolutely nothing about golf but this post struck a chord with me as it really wasn't about golf after all, but life and attitude.  Thank you!
Posted by Kris Wales, Real Estate Blog & Homes for Sale search site, Macomb County MI (Keller Williams Realty - Lakeside Market Center) over 11 years ago
George- what a great way to start my day. We have a saying at Hampton Estates Realty- "leave the negativity at the door". It really works. Now please excuse me, I have to go out and sell a house.
Posted by Bill Carroll over 11 years ago
It is so true,if we think negatively then we can't expect positive results.  You are right about agents still being able to maintain a six figure income in this market, it is all about the attitude.
Posted by Jennifer Fivelsdal, Mid Hudson Valley real estate connection ( JFIVE Home Realty LLC | 845-758-6842|162 Deer Run Rd Red Hook NY 12571) over 11 years ago
George great post! As they say " Whether you think you can or not, you are right".
Posted by Todd and Danielle Millar, Sixteen years of excellence! (Glenn Simon Inc.) over 11 years ago
Positive thinking works again. Believing you can do something is powerful, but I think negativity is more powerful. So be careful about what you think. Thanks for the reminder. Hard to keep on track sometimes :).
Posted by Wendy Montoya, REALTOR® Broker Associate, 254-315-4906 (Towne Adams REALTORS) over 11 years ago
George:  You are so right!  I hear many agent focusing on how negative the market is and if many agents will leave the business.  Yes, the weak ones will; the the strong ones like you will survive and even thrive!
Posted by Diane Aurit, Lake Norman Real Estate (LKN Realty, LLC) over 11 years ago
George, you just keep putting out wonderful post after wonderful post! Thank you! This one is soooo true. Your post highlights one of the reasons I am here at AR often...we are all here to support and encourage each other. What an amazing group of people hang out here...
Posted by Kelly Sibilsky (Licensed Through Referral Connection, LTD.) over 11 years ago
George--You can be your own worst enemy. There truly is something to the power of positive thinking. Good post!
Posted by Teri Eckholm, REALTOR Serving Mpls/St Paul North & East Metro (Boardman Realty) over 11 years ago

Hi George - it's just like that old saying that says, "If you think you can, you can; if you think you can't, you can't".  Either way, whatever you think is just what you get for yourself.

Take a deep breath, and know I can.......  that's what I've been doing all year, as last year was not so great for me in a variety of ways.  I kept my 6 figure income but the attitude was off due to deaths in my family and a crappy market.  This year, THIS year, no matter what it brought, I told myself I would get my attitude up there and KEEP IT THERE.  And I've done just that.  So, "I think I can"...and I've done just that.  No matter what!

Great message here, my friend!

Posted by Ann Cummings, Portsmouth NH Real Estate Preferrable Agent (RE/MAX Shoreline - NH and Maine) over 11 years ago
George:  Good morning!  The words that you put together to tell a story really gives a great visual.  You are such a talented person and I am sure your positive personality exudes over into your business and clients.  Thank you for a very uplifting post.
Posted by Dianne Barody, Pensacola Florida Real Estate (Century 21 AmeriSouth Realty) over 11 years ago
Our greatest battles are waged in our own minds.  Often, victory or defeat is decided before we even step into action.

Great Stuff as always George!
Posted by Jessica Horton Jessica Horton Realty, Jessica Horton: I'm not #1... You Are! (Jessica Horton - Jessica Horton & Associates) over 11 years ago
This is a subject I have very strong opinions about.  It is so true that we must fill our mind with positive thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.  It has to be real, not forced.  We constantly talk to ourselves anyway.  The best thing about it is that we can control our thoughts and get better results.
Posted by Dan Forbes over 11 years ago
It happens we get that negative attitude and it takes someone like you to help get him back up and on the right path so his game will turn around and he will have a great time.
Posted by Susan Trombley, Broker/Realtor, Raleigh, Cary, Wake Forest, Youngs (Trombley Real Estate) over 11 years ago
Great post. When my wifes' nephew and nieces come to visit we tell them that can't is not part of our vocabulary.This has people convince we are on happy juice. Have a great weekend.
Posted by Christopher Onwuasoanya (Atlantic Waste & Power System) over 11 years ago
Thank you so much everyone for your kind remarks and your support!  I hope you all have a wonderful and blessed weekend and "Keep Swinging!"
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Attitude is everything - thanks for the positive message!
Posted by Paula Henry, Realtor - Indianapolis Real Estate - 317-605-4174 (Home to Indy Team @ HomeSmart Realty Group) over 11 years ago
Paula - thank you very much my friend.  I hope all is well.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Good post. We all can do better when we are positive. Thanks for posting.
Posted by Bob & Carolin Benjamin, East Phoenix Arizona Homes (Benjamin Realty LLC) over 11 years ago
George - Another wonderful postive post from you, my friend.  :) As my husband always says to the kids....."CAN'T never did a thing in it's life!"  Sometimes we adults need to hear those wise words too.
Posted by Janice Sutton, Home Stager - Temecula Murrieta (1st Stage Property Transformations ) over 11 years ago

George - great words of wisdom.

When you try to point this out to the negative people, sometimes they still do not get it. They keep going on with there negative way. What a downer. But to others that see this negativism, this is a good lesson on not how to be.

Posted by Chuck Dellorto, "Talk To Chuck" (Coldwell Banker - Serving INDIANA & ILLINOIS) over 11 years ago
What the mind can beleive it can achieve, Good blog
Posted by Brett Noel (Keller Williams) over 11 years ago
George, this is great stuff. It will be inspirational to those who pass this way and experiencing the same thought processes. I have a post in draft now that address this topic. I CAN finish it today. :-)
Posted by Toni Hogan ( over 11 years ago


Nice post. My dad used to say, "with golf, it only takes one good shot to get you back". The nuns in grade school taught us to be persistent like the spider! How true! Thanks,   Fran

Posted by Fran Gaspari, "The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ (Patriot Land Transfer, Inc.) over 11 years ago

Bob & Carolyn - Yes, we can all do better

Janice - Words of wisdom my friend.  Have a great weekend!

Chuck - Very true and thank you

Brett - The mind is very powerful

Toni - Thank you and good luck to you

Fran - All very true...thank you

Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Good reminder - thanks for the post.
Posted by Monica Bourgeau, Business Coaching (New Phase Business Coaching) over 11 years ago
Kevin & Monica - You are very welcome
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago


Your positive outlook is so refreshing.  I think you have a book somewhere within you - you could write a great motivational book. 

Posted by Rita Taylor, Sanford NC Real Estate - Homes for Sale in Sanford North Carolina (None) over 11 years ago
George I agree with you... In my opinion can't is the ugliest four letter word I've ever heard (sure there are some nasty ones out there but this one is up there with the worst). You know what they say- whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're probably right.
Posted by Vicente A. Martinez, Realtor, Brooklyn - Long Island - Queens Homes (Prudential Douglas Elliman Licensed Real Estate Salesperson) over 11 years ago

Rita - Thank you so much my friend.  You are about the 4th member recently to tell me I should write a book but I am not worthy and not even close to having the talent but thank you so much for the compliment.  I hope you are well.

Vincent - Thank you and yes can't is one ugly word

Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Thanks George for the great post. (you must believe it before you can achieve it)
Posted by Michelle Rosser, Atlanta Real Estate-South Fulton & Fayette (Maximum One Realty) over 11 years ago
Great post my friend.  Positive thoughts and encouraging words go along way.   Sometimes just taking a minute out of your day to encourage someone else can change their entire outlook.  Good for you!!
Posted by Desiree Daniels (RE/MAX Tri County) over 11 years ago
Michelle - Very true and you are very welcome
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
Desiree - Thank you so's nice to hire from you.  I just heard from our friend and I will send you an email.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
George -- you have a very special gift to see things postively and to inspire others.  I want to thank you for taking the time to continually remind each of us that although we may not be able to change a situation, we can certainly choose how to react to that situation. 
Posted by Joan Whitebook, Consumer Focused Real Estate Services (BHG The Masiello Group) over 11 years ago
Joan - Thank you so very much my friend.  Have a blessed evening.
Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago

George this is so true.  Great post as usual.  I have something for you; please be sure to check your email...I think you are going to be pretty suprised!!!

Posted by SEO Expert: Michael George, Real Estate and Law Firm SEO over 11 years ago

Great thoughts, thanks for sharing.  I often like to write poetry to the love of my life and a long time ago I wrote a line that I have since used very often and your post reminded me of it.

"The Magic begins in the moment You begin to believe." © DJQ

Posted by Darrel Quebedeaux (Evergreen Realty & Associates Inc.) over 11 years ago
So true.  The build up of frustration is self-defeating.  (BTW I am now sorely reminded of the time I sank 3 balls into the same water trap.)
Posted by Anonymous over 11 years ago

Karen - I emailed you back my friend and don't think you received it.

Darrel - Very interesting.


Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago
LOL, George, "I WILL KILL THE BEAR!!!!" (I'm seeing platinum already ;)...positive thoughts become positive actions. Thanks for the post. Oh and Candace's comment is so darn cute!
Posted by . . (no thanks) over 11 years ago

George, you always inspire me to do better...that's why I come to your blog!

Hope all is well for you and your family,


Posted by Toronto's 2 Hounds Design: Decorating + Staging (2 Hounds Design + Home Staging) over 11 years ago

Bridget - Thank you my friend and go "Kill the Bear!"

Dane - Thank you my friend and God bless you

Posted by George Tallabas, Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 11 years ago